You may or may not know me but my name is Sheena Yap Chan and I host a podcast called The Tao of Self Confidence where I interview women on their inner journey to self confidence. Not only has this podcast helped out so many women building their confidence from the ground up but it has also helped me in my own journey of self confidence.
And I learned one of the biggest secrets of building your self confidence is to live for a bigger purpose than you.
Yes this purpose of helping women build their confidence from the ground up has been the foundation as to why I keep going even when I have moments of self doubt, frustration or feel like quitting. Sometimes I even want to throw my laptop against the wall when I feel like nothing is going right but my purpose keeps me going.
And the most successful people, even the women I interview, also have a big purpose to serve others which has also helped them build their own confidence whether it’s…..
- To be a better mom for their children
- To help educate people on digital literacy
- To help women share stories through the power of photography and videography
- And too many more to mention (You can always check out the podcast to hear these amazing interviews.)
This has helped them grow and become the powerful woman they were destined to be. It wasn’t like a walk in the park. If you have listened to the women I interview they have been through hell and back.
I have interviewed women who have been sexually and physically abused, diagnosed with cancer, and even been through bankruptcy not once, not twice but THREE times! I even interviewed a woman who was born with no arms and is able to fly a plane with her feet.
Yet they found a way to get out of their darkest moments to see the light and have the confidence to go in the direction of their dreams. They are earning 6 and 7 figure incomes, speaking on stages, casted in major blockbusters, written best selling novels and more.
All because of a purpose that was bigger than them and it didn’t matter how long it took them to get what they deserve. They just kept on picking themselves back up after they have fallen down.
They always say that if you fall down seven times you get back up eight times. That is confidence. It’s not always easy to keep on getting up every time you fall down. It takes courage to do that especially in the world we live in where you constantly get judged for every action you take.
But like I said, if you have a purpose bigger than you, things like being afraid of what others might say about you or feeling like a failure will go away. In fact most people will commend you for your persistency and consistency.
Like when I first started my podcast, I hardly got any responses. I would get a message once in a blue moon saying how it has changed their life. The sounds of crickets never stopped me from giving up, I kept on going because I knew how important this podcast was.
Then two and half years later, I have been featured on interviews, articles and my inbox has been bombarded with messages. So, just because you are doing something for the greater good it doesn’t mean people aren’t watching, they are watching in secret.
Here’s another story that I wanted to share with you about purpose. I saw a video on Facebook about Tofurky. Their first 10 years of business they only made $31000 but they didn’t stop shop because of their purpose which is to create a world where people don’t need to exploit animals for food.
I decided to check out the current status of Tofurky. In November 2017, approach the five millionth sale. How amazing is that? Can you imagine all the roadblocks, frustrations, and pain they went through to get to where they are today? It was because of the purpose. Without that purpose I don’t think you would see them today.
I hope after you read this you can start creating a purpose that is bigger than you and you can start small because eventually it will evolve into something bigger. When I first started my journey, I had no clue what my purpose was but I kept on searching and tweaking until I found something that gives me the joy and confidence to keep pushing forward.
If it’s possible for me, then it is possible for you! You have the power to create something that can positively impact the world and build you up in the process.
The article was written by Sheena Yap Chan. She is a blogger, podcaster, self confidence consultant, author and speaker whose sole purpose, drive and passion is to help build women’s self confidence from the ground up. She currently inspires women everyday through her podcast called The Tao of Self Confidence where she interviews various women about their inner journey to self confidence.