4 Ways to Own Your Voice and Reclaim Your Personal Power 

One of the things I love about being a coach is that I get to help people see themselves as others see them, and get out of their own way to pursue their dreams. It’s rewarding to see when someone truly gets it that they can truly own their personal power. Because sadly, many of us do not truly recognize the power we possess. Many of us are too focused on the past, our perceived flaws, and negative self-talk.  

Does this sound familiar?  

Life is funny. It deals us cards, and sometimes we get a bum hand. Sometimes we want to throw the whole hand in and start over. Which is an option. But I’ll come back to that. What is constant is us. We are each made with a divine purpose. 

But unfortunately, some of us live on auto-pilot and drag ourselves through each day. We have accepted what the world or some people tell us about who we are and what we cannot achieve.  

It’s all lies. It’s bullshit. Yeah, I said it.  

My job is to stop you from believing the bullshit and instead focus on who you really are.  

You are brilliant. You are magical… one of a kind. You are unique. You are a unicorn. And you were created for a special reason.  

Once we awaken to this fact, the sky’s the limit! Got your attention, didn’t I? At least I hope so.  

So – once we’re WOKE, what do we do? Here are a few things. 

Open your mouth. Own your voice.  

When I was in my 20s I was called “bossy” one too many times, and I decided to be nice and let others talk. That formed a habit of shrinking that grew until I was in my 40s. It took a wise woman to show my how I was giving my power away. Ironically, my awakening also prompted to pursue my coaching career, where owning my voice is crucial. I tell my clients to own their brilliance and shine, baby shine! Don’t worry about what “they” think. “They” are not in charge of your life. You are!  

Remove negative influences and toxic people.  

 There are some people who seem to relish raining on others’ parades. Maybe their own lives are so miserable that they can’t stand to see other people happy.  But here’s the deal. We all get to choose who we have in our lives. And if someone in your life is making you feel small, unwanted or “less than”, or if the relationship is imbalanced, you just may need to distance yourself from that person. Surround yourself with people who believe in and support you. It makes a huge difference.  

Make a bold decision.  

Nothing energizes like taking risks. Deciding to do something that scares you a little, or even a lot, can give you a whole new lease on life. Take a moment to reflect. Is there something you want to try, do or experience that you’ve not allowed yourself to try in the past? Imagine what it would be like to give yourself permission to go for it. Maybe you will actually go through with it this time.   

Say no.  

As women, we are often socialized to be agreeable. We say yes to things that we don’t want to do. We don’t want to offend or inconvenience others. Often, we take on much more than we should. And then we hit the wall. Here’s the deal. To have vibrant life, we must reclaim our choices. Which also means saying no to things we don’t want. Saying no also allows us to create space to say yes to the things that ignite your soul, and for the things and people that truly matter.  

Give yourself permission to start over.  

Some of the most incredible stories are from people who recovered from a devastating loss, which prompted new beginnings. I love hearing about how people turned it around. But honestly, you don’t have to wait for tragedy to strike.  You can hit the reset button at any time. If you are feeling unfulfilled or stuck, you can choose a new job, a brand-new career, or to relocate to another city, or even another country. A fresh start can create a clean canvas upon which to create your new life. Exciting, isn’t it?  

Life is short, and tomorrow isn’t promised. You get to choose your life. Everything in your life is a choice – from where you live to who love to what you do for a living. You get to say no to things, which creates space to say yes to more things. And when you really get that you matter – deep down inside, you gain the strength and courage to truly reclaim your voice and your life.